Our Mission
At #NoBibsBurpsBottles, our mission is to EMPOWER, HIGHLIGHT AND CELEBRATE Childfree African American/Black Women to embrace and live their best childfree life, free from societal expectations and stereotypes. We strive to create a safe and authentic space that validates their choices, while fostering a sense of community and belonging. There is something truly special about being CHOCOLATE – CHILDFREE & WONDERFULLY MADE!
There are still many who just do not get it! Our mission extends beyond just supporting childfree Black women; we also strive to foster a broader understanding and acceptance of their choices within society. By engaging in educational initiatives and fostering dialogue, we aim to combat stigma and create a more equitable world where all individuals are respected and celebrated, regardless of their decision to have children or not.
Our Reminder to All: “Womanhood is NOT synonymous with Motherhood!”
The Visionary & Founder
Dr. Angela L. Harris knew in her late twenties that she did not want to have children. She often shared that she “never felt maternal” or “longed for motherhood” like many of her friends, family, and colleagues. Dr. Harris felt alone, shame, and guilty for not having a desire, want or need to have children. She wondered if other women, more specifically, Black women, felt the same way.
In 2017, Dr. Harris created a survey that collected the personal stories and reasons why Black women, 30+ years old, were childfree. She was amazed at the high number of Black women that shared her same experiences, thoughts, and feelings about being childfree. Their stories and testimonies became the foundation for her first book, “#NoBibsBurpsBottles: The Stories of African American Women without Children” *(work in progress/manuscript). Dr. Harris was NOT alone!
Dr. Angela L. Harris, a trailblazing force in the childfree community, is the esteemed Founder and Visionary behind #NoBibsBurpsBottles. Dedicated to empowering and celebrating African American/Black women on their childfree journey, Dr. Harris orchestrates impactful virtual events and in-person meetups. Her online store offers exclusive childfree pride merchandise, reflecting her commitment to fostering a supportive community. As the host of curated events like "The Chocolate and Childfree: Sistah Circle Brunch" and "The Chocolate and Childfree: Optimal Growth Group Experience," Dr. Harris cultivates spaces for meaningful connections, community building, and personal development. Recognized as a subject matter expert, she has been a guest lecturer at Michigan State University and featured on media outlets such as NPR, Huff Post, Spectrum News, Scripps News, and various podcasts, shedding light on her childfree lifestyle and the childfree community.
As the Assistant Dean of Students at a North Carolina college, Dr. Harris empowers young adults to thrive both academically and personally. With a background in Clinical Psychology, a passion for advocacy, and a deep-rooted commitment to uplift and honor Black women, she’s creating meaningful change through her online community, Podcast, YouTube channel, and speaking engagements. Dr. Harris is a proud Auntie, God Mother, and Fur Mama to a rescue pit bull mix named Lenni.
Dr. Harris wants Childfree Black Women to know that:
We are not old maids.
We are not less than.
We too, can have rich, fulfilling and productive lives - without the title of mother.
The #NoBibsBurpsBottles Podcast
Our podcast represents THEE #1 podcast that EMPOWERS, HIGHLIGHTS AND CELEBRATES African American/Black women who are childfree by choice or childfree by circumstance! We aim to dispel the old-maid myth and remind childfree Sistahs that they are wonderfully made!
Podcast *BONUS* episodes may include, but are not limited to, mental health, wellness, self-improvement, singleness, relationship/marriage, faith and spirituality, financial literacy, and childfree Black male and couples’ perspectives.
You can also find the #NoBibsBurpsBottles podcast on Spotify.
Please share our podcast with your family and friends!
"My Authentic Childfree Life Blog"
(Photo: iStockphoto / NNPA)
We recognize that being childfree is a personal decision that holds unique significance for Black women, who often face additional pressures and cultural narratives surrounding motherhood. #NoBibsBurpsBottles wants to challenge these narratives, break down barriers, and promote self-determination for childfree Black women, allowing Sistahs to define their own paths and prioritize their individual desires and aspirations.
Our blog is where we share our honest thoughts and feelings about everything childfree: positive and challenging experiences, pop culture and reality TV shows, interesting encounters being in child-friendly spaces, and much more!
Empowerment Services & Events
Through our various programs, resources, and advocacy efforts, we aim to provide a supportive network that offers education, guidance, and encouragement. We seek to amplify the voices and experiences of childfree Black women, challenging societal norms and highlighting the diverse narratives and perspectives within our community.
Just Be You: Motivational Coaching (20 minutes)
Are you ready to have a sistah-girl chat with someone who will be your personal coach and biggest cheerleader along your childfree life journey?
The goal is to assist you in making your own discoveries and creating a life that is determined by you! You will have more self-awareness and confidence to change the way you’ve been living. You will still feel the societal pressure, but you will know how to handle it with positivity - because you know who you are and what you stand for.
Consultation topics can include, but are not limited to:
- Defining who you are and what you want in life.
- Dealing with feelings of guilt and uncertainty as you get older.
- Managing being the only childfree woman in your family or friend group.
- Living single and navigating the dating world.
- Finding your safe space of being a woman of color and childfree.
- Strengthening your mind, body and spirit.
Chocolate & Childfree: Optimal Growth Group Experience
This is a virtual group experience which will consist of a cohort of 6 - 10 childfree Black women. Yes, this is tailored made for us, by us! This group experience will launch in 2024.
The goals of this group experience includes, but are not limited to:
- Strengthening the unity between childfree sistahs in an intimate way.
- Re-igniting your passion for life and self-love with the support and encouragement from others.
- Creating a safe space for black girl magic and black women woes.
- Increasing your confidence and wellness in areas of financial literacy, health, body positivity and more.
Group Details
- Virtual: Zoom
- Frequency: Two (2) 30 minute 1:1 Coaching/Consultation meetings
- Time: Thursdays, 7pm - 8:30pm EST
- When: February - March 2024
Past Events
Chocolate & Childfree: Sistah Circle Brunch
On Saturday, 8/24, Childfree Sistahs from various states visited the Queen City to attend our 2nd annual 💗Chocolate & Childfree💗: Sistah Circle Brunch in celebration of International Childfree Day. Our theme was Shades of Pink. . The event delivered awesomeness from beginning to end! Everything from group games and activities, sensitive discussion topics, great food and dessert, community building, and dance! . Many stayed the entire weekend and explored all that Charlotte, NC had to offer! We are so grateful to have hosted such an event where childfree Black women could gather and be seen, heard, and celebrated 🎉🎉🎉🎉! . We look forward to hosting our event in a new city next year! Will you be in attendance? We hope that you are💗! .
Thank you to our awesome supporters!
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Sponsors
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@bestmeevermovement
@staxedandcompany
@beyondwellness_llc
@brokenheartsrestored
Hot Topics Holiday Gathering
"Childfree Sistahs gathered virtually in their best holiday pajamas for the Hot Topics Holiday Gathering! We closed out the year with lively discussions on current events, built stronger bonds within our community, and shared plenty of laughter! Here's to more empowering moments together!"
Embrace Your Childfree Life with Pride!
Our collection is designed to uplift and inspire, letting you showcase your pride in being childfree while embracing your rich cultural heritage. We understand that your choice is a personal one and should be celebrated without any judgment. That is why our merchandise reflects the beauty, strength, and resilience of Black women who are living their best childfree life by choice or by circumstance!
Represent with Your Childfree Merch!
Featured Media Interviews
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Testimonials from Childfree Besties
"I have witnessed Dr. Angela L. Harris launch #NoBibsBurpsBottles from the ground up, and this is her baby, which is ironic, since her platform is all about Black women who are living our lives childfree. Through her heartfelt and thought provoking blog posts, motivational quotes and lively discussions in her Facebook group, as well as her podcast where she interviews childfree women and men, about living our lives, by choice, without children, Angela has become a powerful voice within a movement to ask society to acknowledge our choices living childfree, to encourage those who have made the choice, and to recognize the good things childfree women (and men) are doing in our communities as well as in our roles with the children in our lives as aunties, God parents, and mentors. If you haven't yet, be sure to support #NoBibsBurpsBottles and share with a childfree friend!"
-Kellea Tibbs (Writer/Event Planner)
Chief Creative Officer of The Ivywritermedia Company
"Dr. Angela Harris aka Doc Sirrah’s creation of #NoBibsBurpsBottles for women who are 30+, single, chocolate and child free .... is absolutely BRILLIANT! Being a member of her group, I‘ve come to realize just how much this platform for discussion is needed. She has created a very special, private, enjoyable, safe ‘splace’ (space + place) for this group of women that many in society view as a rare oddity. In this ‘splace’, we share our views, experiences, vent and just talk about what it’s like to be single, chocolate and child free. It’s always good to have somewhere one can communicate in a judgment free zone with like minded individuals. Kudos to you, Soror Doc Sirrah! I look forward to sharing the ride and cheering you on as #NoBibsBurpsBottles continues to grow."
-J.K. Hayes: Founder/Director of Transcending Lupus Support
Alliance of Northeast Louisiana aka TLSA of NELA
“Far too often, women are shamed for not having children. I love #NoBibsBurpsBottles because it inspires and encourages women to embrace child-free life. On a personal level, it’s given me the confidence to own who I am in all areas of my life.”
-Angela Mitchell, Founder of YANA 614
“I decided to become a part of #NoBibsBurpsBottles community because it’s a community that I can relate to when it comes to being an African American woman over 30 that is childfree and ok with being childfree. I can express being childfree without being judged for my decision. I still feel important as a grown woman who’s childfree BY CHOICE! It’s a community where there’s no pressure and no one is asking me why I’m not having kids. I’m proud to be childfree and the group doesn’t make me feel bad in doing so!“